Tweet And Reactions That Got People Talking –
I saw this tweet by Erigga and it hit deep.
“I was with him when he was drinking garri.”
But na you buy the garri?
Let’s unpack this mindset that’s becoming very common in our generation.
The “Loyalty” Women Talk About Today is Not Real
Many women love to say they were there when you had nothing.
But truth is, a lot of them were just witnesses, not builders.
They didn’t help.
They didn’t invest.
They didn’t even believe in you—they were just hoping for a return on their emotional “time.”
It’s all about positioning themselves for the future harvest without ever planting seeds.
Presence ≠ Participation
There’s a clear difference between being present and being useful.
Ask yourself:
Did she contribute to your hustle?
Did she support with money, ideas, motivation?
Or did she just sit there… waiting?
Too many women want to claim royalty status for just hanging around during your broke phase.
Real Loyalty is Silent
The girl who actually bought the garri isn’t the one tweeting.
She’s the one you remember when you finally blow—because she didn’t make noise, she made impact.
Loyalty is:
Showing up consistently.
Investing (not just emotionally, but tangibly).
Praying, planning, building with you.
But most of what you see now is emotional blackmail masked as support.
Men, Stop Rewarding Passive Loyalty
Your success is not community property.
If she didn’t grind with you, she shouldn’t reap with you.
Let’s break it down clearly:
If What She Did is to make you feel Encouraged, supported, sacrificed then sje deserves Respect & loyalty
If What She Did is Invested in your dream then What She Deserves is Return on value
But if she Complained, watched, tolerated you then she deserves Nothing but silence .
Final Thoughts
Let this sink in:
Presence without contribution is just observation.
And observers don’t get trophies.
So next time a woman says, “I was with you when you were drinking garri”, calmly ask:
“Did you buy am for me?”
Because sitting on the sideline doesn’t make you a teammate.
What do y’all think?
Have you experienced this?
Drop your thoughts and share with someone who needs this reminder.
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